Decidedly Obscure Human Complaints.

Really amazing blog post from Ian Harvie regarding his journey to get enough money for his own surgery, and mention of the Sexy F2M Calendar fundraiser Aaron and I have been putting on to raise mula for his much-needed surgery. Ian also submitted a photo for the calendar contest, which, of course, made it into the final 12. Thank you, Ian!

My grandparents are beyond elderly adorable. For my birthday, they decided to spoil me with a new laptop for school. Which is really exciting in and of itself - but, that isn’t the “super cute” part. The card they gave me with it =’s super cuteness x’s 381: Notice something? Grand son . My first ever grandson card from my GRANDPARENTS. My grandparents who both grew up in one of the most conservative states in the nation - Utah. My grandparents were both born in the 1930s (1930 and 1934 to be exact) during the Great Depression. This was decades before the civil rights movement or Stonewall. My grandma grew up on a farm in rural Utah and went to BYU (Brigham Young University). My grandpa grew up in downtown Salt Lake City at a time when one of the most popular restaurants in town was Coon Chicken Inn (seriously). In spite of this, they have never been racist or homophobic. My grandma even hosted a liberal anti-war, pro-civil rights talk radio program in Salt Lake City wa...

Anonymous asked: Hey man, I have a consultation with Dr. Agarwal on friday the 18th of may and I was wondering if you know if I'm going to need anythig special? Like... a letter from my endo, or a letter from my therapist? And also did you enjoy your time in her office? How was the atmosphere? I appriciate any kind of advice or help or anything. Thanks. _-T I don’t believe that you need anything special for the consultation itself. She’ll let you know what information she requires before the surgery itself, which, if I remember correctly, does include a letter from your therapist and/or doctor. My experience with Dr. Agarwal and her staff was extremely positive. I felt 100% comfortable and respected by her, and she does a great deal to educate her staff so they’re also trans-aware/friendly. So yes, positive.positive.positive and I am very excited for you. I’m sure she’ll let you know the details during the consultation!

Anonymous asked: Hello there I have question that's kinda nosy but around what age did you start 'T'? and does it cost a lot of money? because I'm turning twenty today and still pre-everything (not by choice) and I feel like I'm lagging, like I should already be on it.... I started hormone therapy on December 11, 2008 - when I was 26 years old. Initially, while I was insured, it actually did cost me a lot of money - about $60 a month. I didn’t realize at the time that my insurance literally stated that it would not cover anything subjectively determined to be “trans-related”. But also, I had been going to a pharmacy located at a nearby grocery store. After asking around in the community, I discovered another local pharmacy that sold the same amount for $10/month. And when I lost insurance, since it didn’t cover my hormone therapy anyway, I’ve continued to spend about $10/month for it. Not bad! In regards to this “lagging” nonsense, there isn’t any set window for...

Anonymous asked: I'm trying to help out a friend who feels they do not identify with either gender. He prefers using masculine pronouns, but doesn't identify with either gender. People don't seem to understand that my husband and I want to get him out of a horrible family situation by providing a place for him to live with us. Most people don't know about his gender dysphoria and he is physically female. What can I do to help people understand this situation? This is a really, really difficult question to answer. But, most importantly, it’s so important that you and your husband are there as allies standing up for him. I can safely presume that your friend may be experiencing a great deal of isolation, given how challenging it can be to find information that’s inclusive of trans*/non-binary/genderqueer identities, and also given his family situation. Having friends who are clearly there for him, to fight on his behalf and to provide support and acceptance are absolute...

It has been 5 very refreshing, gaming-filled days since I took my last of four finals from the most.brutal.semester.by.far. ever . It felt like the third season of RuPaul’s Drag Race - but instead of making three elaborate dresses a night, I had paper after god awful project after presentation and another paper and then another presentation and… you get the gist. Anyway, by the end of it writing a single sentence made my chest clench and my mind go blank. Oy vey. On another, more personal note, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer last month. She had surgery on Monday and we’re waiting to hear back regarding the possibility of radiation treatment. I’ve had a difficult time figuring out how to write about this in a way that respects my mother’s privacy while also relaying that it’s happening and how I feel. I’ll just let her read and approve it before I publish. Solution, BAM! Essentially, throughout learning of her diagnosis I’ve felt stressed, but moreso worried about how she...

Got this new hair did last weekend from Princess Kennedy. So summer post-finals perfect: